i am not her

Do not call me by another name, even in jest.

Do not compare me to another person who my work might remind you of.

(Insert any DIY/Foodie/Gardener/Hostess name here… you know who they are.)

I am not her.

I have to  remind myself, as well as others, of this idea of not comparing all the time.

Why do we do this to ourselves and to each other?

Lately it seems there is this odd thing happening online where everyone is trying to imitate, outdo, and grab power from one another.  This is not something that any of us needs to do.  There is room for us all.

I share hobbies and interests with thousands of people, but I am me, not any of them – famous or not. And I am happy with that.  I know who I am, what I am truly passionate about, and what makes me “me.”  It is not the same as any of the others, meaning that we can all play in the sandbox together, work together and collaborate to create amazing things.

Let’s build each other up – not tear each other down.

Let’s love on each other – not hate on each other.

Let’s create beauty – not destroy it.

Realize and accept who you are, what you are good at, and go for it.

Don’t let anyone compare you against someone else and don’t do that to yourself – you will quickly learn you will never live up to that expectation that you have arbitrarily placed on yourself.  That is a lot of pressure that is unattainable and unrealistic, as well as stressful.

Smile.  Embrace your gifts, your joy, your passions.  Dare to be different.

Never be afraid to be yourself! www.stepheniehamen.com


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